I’m Not Good Enough: Is This True?

I’m not good enough. I can’t do this. Things will never change. Far too often we lay our own graves with these self-fulfilling prophecies.

It’s hard to be a millennial these days with everything that culture promotes. Far too often, we lose sight of what we’re actually capable of as we get immersed in negative self-talk prompted by the world around us. It’s been said that 80% of our thoughts are negative. Can you believe that?

Sometimes the thoughts are deceptive, subtle running in the background so you don’t even notice. But slowly, they’re wreaking havoc on your life. They keep you from having your best relationships, from living out your best life, your potential.

You begin to believe that you’re really not good enough. So what are we to do?

Identify the Enemy

To some, it might be hard to believe, but we’re constantly under attack on a daily basis, we’re going through a spiritual battle each and everyday. Craig Groeschel at Life.Church preached about this in his series, “When The Devil Knocks”.

In reality, our negative thoughts are really lies that come from darkness. There is no truth within them. And the more we listen to them, the more infected we become and the more it turns us against others, while we stop believing in ourselves. 

Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 

1 Peter 5:8

If we’re not on watch at all times, we find these thought patterns creeping in and 20 minutes later, it’s like, “how did this happen, how did I get here?” We’re filled with negative energy, but it can be dealt with simply by being conscious of the deception. And if others speak bad of you, you have to realize that it’s equally untrue.

You are loved and a child of God, always. You’ll always be good enough.

When we separate what’s really going on, at the core we find that our thoughts aren’t the truth, what people say isn’t the truth and we have to re-center ourselves.

Stop Trying To Do It Yourself

As humans, we feel the need to always try to control every aspect of our lives. But it’s important to step back and realize who is really in control. God.

Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God. 

2 Corinthians 3:5

We know when we try to force things in life. It’s part of human nature. But when we release control to God, that’s when we are at our best. Through the Holy Spirit and through Jesus, we are capable of all things.

Remember You Are Capable of All Things

To be capable of all things, we need to be constantly going back to the well. That means praying everyday for a renewed mind, for a healthy heart, to be filled by the Spirit, to have the right perspective and pray for help to see God’s plan for you.

Seeking a relationship with God is the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Once we stop listening to the enemy in our head and stop worrying about our inadequacy and inability to be what we want to be, we can enjoy God’s peace while living out his plan for Us.

I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. 

John 15:5

This past month at work, I had yearly reviews at work with my manager. We had to have some tough conversations about my path forward in 2018. And I left the conversation feeling discouraged, like am I really good enough? Can I really do this?

I let the enemy seep in, but the truth is, I am 100% capable. I can grow and advance and reach my potential. When you trust God’s plan for you and that there will be some trials, you’re able to see the truth in the situation and what He wants you to get out of it.

Speak the Truth

For most of my life, I battled OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). The odds were stacked against me. 95% of people take medication for it and it’s rare to see someone fully get past it.  

And for much of that time, I was a passive Jesus follower. I didn’t use my faith as my foundation. So I told myself, this situation is impossible to overcome. It feels like I’ll never get better. It’s too much hard work. And every time I uttered those words out loud, to other people, I dug myself further in a hole. I was in the midst of a self fulfilling prophecy.

How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire. And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. (James 3:6-7)

How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire. And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. 

James 3:6-7

By even speaking small untruths, about ourselves or others and engaging in negative self-talk, it can spread like a wildfire. The tongue is extremely powerful. It sets the stage for the path you’re going to take. Think about how true this is. Every person can probably think of a comment, whether big or small that a classmate, parent or friend said when they were younger that stuck with them and grew like a disease from within to become a huge insecurity.

I know this was the case for me when I was in high school, I got made fun of and other kids made comments. They stuck with me and it didn’t even have to be in the conscious sense, but I developed insecurities from them, that I’ve had to unravel and speak truth into over time.

I eventually found Jesus. And today he empowers me more than I ever had been before. I’m almost completely healthy and my only medication was Him.

I still have bad days, but I remember to go back to the well. I’m attentive and on-watch for the enemy. And I realize how powerful my words are. If the enemy sinks in, I remember how many times Jesus saved me before.